As The Papers are Served.......

I received divorce papers in the mail Wednesday afternoon.  I was surprised on many levels, as my husband had retained a lawyer after we had agreed to use an online law paperwork type site.  We had also agreed to a no contest or irreconcilable differences.  No, he is suing for divorce on the grounds of fraud.  I could have sued him for cruelty, abuse or even fraud, citing his inabilities in marital relations.  (You may think that's TMI, but I could be much more specific.) I was floored by that fact there is also a restraining order.  What in the Hell?  He was the one harassing ME!  In any event, he cannot contact me, either. He may or may not have left his job in the big city to be closer to his mother, who was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.  When it rains it pours. 

I have only ever asked him to help me in getting set up in a new place, maybe a bed or some money for furniture.  I left all kitchen equipment other than items that had sentimental value, and will have very little for whatever new place I may find.  Sure, I have a few dressers and a dining room table, but will sleep on an inflatable bed if I have to, but I sure as hell don't want to.  I'm no camper.  I have applied for legal aid to help me get some type of settlement, just a few thousand dollars.  He makes plenty.

This has been quite an emotional week with receiving these shocking papers, and my niece had dental surgery this week on her sixth birthday, I was rather flu-ish, and missed two nights of work.  Lots of tears have been shed, no doubt about it.